One of the most read posts on Married by His Grace has been How to Spiritually Clean your Home.
A post about spiritually and physically cleaning your home while in prayer.
I had written the post after sharing details with friends of how I deep clean my home monthly. How it usually consists of the kids out of the home with my husband for the day. I get down on my knees scrubbing the floors and praying for my home, marriage, and kids at the same time. I clean windows then place my hand covered with anointing oil to war in prayer on every windowsill, every doorway, and every countertop to be divinely protected spiritually and physically by the hand of God.
What is considered a typical home deep clean is now a physical and spiritual deep clean for our home and family.
I never expected for the post to be read or seen as much as it has. Nor to have such a positive outpouring response from readers.
How to spiritually clean your home has opened my eyes to different perspectives as to what is most eager to cleanse in the home.
As a wife, I know walking into my home with freedom is very important to me.
Think about it, people truly desire for their homes to be spiritually purified. Full of peace, to feel like a deep breath of fresh air. It is one solitude area in our day-to-day life that we depend on to become our own comfort place.
But how could it be if we walk into our home and all we feel is a burden?
As if there is an icky stench to the atmosphere. Sometimes no matter what we do for ourselves, this can still happen in our home. For me, I had to realize, I do not live alone. I have six others living in the home and the devil would like nothing more than to take us down one by one and as a unit.
Please understand, spiritually cleaning our home is not saying our home is now perfect. That we are now in the clear nor are we excused by all our actions just because we anoint every pillowcase in the home.
No, spiritually cleaning our home is taking responsibility of spiritually protecting our home. It is staying alert for all that is planned against us. Depending on the plan of God, it may even eliminate some messes the enemy is trying to play against us in our marriages and/or children.
Besides God, who is the most important to be equipped and ready in your home?
The marriage. The leaders of the home.
Prayer in marriage is so need today!
When we are not in unity in marriage, we are not acting as spiritual leaders.
This is why we must stay alert and well equipped in prayer in our marriage bedroom.
This is where it all begins and ends for the married couple that leads the home.
Example; you rise in the morning together in this room (always sleep in the same room, if you do not, pause right now and pray for your marriage and for it to come) and you lie down together in this room together.
The marriage room is a place of privacy, of communication, and most of all, a place of deep intimacy.
A marriage bedroom and bed represents oneness.
In the first few years of marriage, I felt so distant from my husband emotionally and spiritually. Certain conversations would halt right in the middle. We were often silent. It felt like a tug of war every so often. We would try minimally for the sake of the marriage then eventually just give in to it with no one winning for the greater outcome. He would tug for me to keep opening up. I would tug for him to become more vulnerable. Then due to not wanting to start an argument, we would just put the rope down and completely go into silence. It was the way of communication in our marriage.
The outcome: no unity in major decisions.
We played it off well for a while but truth is, there was no deep connection. There was no just being able to look at each other and just know! We lacked.
One day, I became exceedingly overwhelmed by the thought of not having a deep intimate connection with my spouse. It brought fear of the future to me. Through my compulsive crying to God, I decided I would take the matter into prayer.
The Lord clearly spoke to me about anointing our marriage bedroom and to pray about a certain topic over our bed every night. One topic per night to pray on, to speak about freely with Him as my Father; to reminisce, dream and vision aloud about my marriage.
If my concern was how silent we would become together, then the Lord would direct me to speak every detail about it, alone in my room while my husband was at work. As I spoke through the fears and concerns, the fervent prayers came right behind. I would find myself warring it through. Battling it out and conquering through each step.
Things did not and would not magically change over night but I would immediately feel an assurance that I fought for my marriage. I gave it all to the Lord and now it was His, not mine to fight.
I truly believe sometimes what we miss in our faith of restoring and/or building up our marriages is that we do not always feel assurance that we fought a good fight. If we don’t see an immediate change, we tend to believe it’s because we are not doing enough.
Let me assure you, anytime you take concerns, hurt, or a need to God for your marriage, you are fighting the good fight.
Taking my concerns to God of my marriage was relieving and reviving all at the same time.
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I challenge you to cleanse your marriage room.
Here is how I begin.
Cleaning the Marriage Room:
Clean your room, ensuite, and closets.
Do everything as you would as if you were deep cleaning in your home.
Vacuum, dust furniture and blinds, clean floors, open the windows for fresh air.
Wash linens and make your bed.
Get anointing oil. If you don’t have anointing, get olive oil, pray over it and begin using.
Anoint the pillows, the head of your bed, foot of bed, lay across your entire bed if desired. But please do the bed first.
Then begin to allow the holy spirit to direct your steps of where to anoint and prayer in your marriage bedroom.
Here’s a good story of why it’s important to have always allow the holy spirit to direct you:
I have a friend that would anoint and pray over her husband’s shoes because he would hide tiny bottles of liquor in them. She would never tell him she knew, she kept it to herself because she knew the Lord trusted her to see what and where he was hiding. She would touch and anoint the sin that was interfering into their marriage. He has now been sober for fourteen years after one morning waking up and saying, the taste of his mouth was different and he no longer wanted to drink.
Only the leading of God can do that.
Topics of prayer for your marriage in the bedroom:
- Trust in each other and foremost to trust God
- Unity in the marriage
- Loyalty to one another
- Honesty
- Integrity
- Faithfulness to one another
- Maturity
- Patience
- Courage to reach out to one another during difficult times
- Humility
- Laughter to be consistent in the marriage
- Friendship
- Vision and dreams to prosper with each other
- For safety in the workplace and in finances.
- For peace within ourselves and in the home.
- Spiritual breakthrough within ourselves and in the marriage
- And Sex. Yes, Sex.
Pray for the intimacy in your marriage. For sex to be alive and free in your marriage. As long as your desires are in alignment with a biblical sex life, speak to God what you desire for intimacy with your spouse. To kiss more, to embrace more, etc.… Sex is in the bible, do not act shy or be embarrassed of it.
It is the highest form of unity we can give to our spouse. It’s a beautiful thing we should never abuse or take for granted.
And lastly, pray for whatever you are led to pray for. You can read lists all day long of what to pray for in your marriage but only God knows the things hidden in our hearts, in your spouse’s heart. Be open to hearing from God and allow Him to direct you of how and when to pray specifics over your marriage.
Some of the reveals may hurt, may be hard to see or hear but I can guarantee one thing, it is always for the good.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God,
to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
My prayer for us today is that we as wives; always use wisdom when praying for our marriage. May it never be of selfishness or with revenge. But may we truly desire to fill your home with the pleasant riches that only God can give to us.
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