Spiritual warfare is real and can be devastating to our lives. Marriage is where I have personally endured spiritual warfare many times. Especially when it came to feeling defeated spiritually and mentally as a wife.
What once seemed like just a silly thought would suddenly bombard my mind with full force of negativity, which eventually damaged my self confidence and burdened relationships surrounding around me; especially my marriage.
I had to learn how to fight and rise from the habit of falling to the battles.
Through spiritual warfare, Prayer is one of the most spiritual deadliest weapons to breakthrough and conquer the battle against the enemy. Prayer brings out the authority you have in the Lord as you speak against what the devil is trying to kill. The first part of John 10:10 tells us:
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy…
In marriage we can sometimes become overwhelmed with the thoughts of; “Am I a good enough wife? Am I being the wife God called me to be? Could I be prettier or more adventurous for my husband?” These and many more questions can overwhelm us. It can turn from one thought to many thoughts and if we do not get a ahold of it and stop it, these doubtful little thoughts becomes more aggressive overtime – to the point that we no longer question the wife we are, but we don’t even believe we are a godly wife.
That my friend, is what the enemy wants to do to you. The thief wants to steal and destroy your joy and confidence as a wife. It first starts the battle with a negative reflection on ourselves then the war is completed by us no longer finding our confidence in God.
When we allow doubtful thoughts of ourselves as a wife to enter into our minds over and over it then turns into a habit. A habit then turns to a lifestyle, and a lifestyle can overtake you if the lifestyle is not representing everything that is pure, honest, and noble before God. The last part of John 10:10 restores our hope by Jesus Christ reminding us:
I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
To break these thoughts we must use the power of prayer and confidence in knowing that Christ gives our marriage life. Pray to the Lord about your doubts, fears, and insecurities. Ask Him to reveal to you why you are being attacked as a godly wife. Most likely He will respond with; ‘Because the enemy hates a marriage that is serving the Lord. It makes your marriage powerful’.
Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.
Your marriage is powerful in the Lord because two are better than one. You can lift each other up when one feels weak (Ecclesiastes 4:10). The Lord is upon you when the two of you pray together (Matthew 18:20).
As a wife your spiritual discernment and strength is vital to your marriage. When you discern an attack with negative thoughts, cease it with the strength you receive from the Lord. Remember these scriptures to gain hope and trust in why God created you to become one with your husband:
- An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. Her husband finds full confidence in her and lacks nothing. Proverbs 31:10-11
- Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
- “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31
- He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22
- House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14
A wise women desires peace for her home. She builds her home upon the word of God. By consistently reading your word, speaking scripture over your life and the life of your marriage, you can restore, deliver, and even prevent what the enemy wants to steal from you. I encourage you to be proactive with the word of God for your marriage and for the well being of your husbands spiritual walk.