We are now in Week 7 of the Summer Sizzle Blog Hop series. Where 9 Bloggers are sharing their best work with each other for 9 weeks. Last week I introduced Deb Wolf with her post Ten Ways to Teach Your Child Humbleness.
This week I am introducing Melanie Redd. There is no other way to describe Melanie except with the words of grace, warm, and absolutely fun to be around. I had the honor to meet her earlier this year. We immediately hit it off. The whole weekend we had together I couldn’t wait to sit to next to her just to hear her speak. She loves the Lord and expresses it ever so eloquently. Her passion is to encourage others with the word of God. I hope you enjoy her encouraging post about how to encourage your husband as much as I do!
By: Melanie Redd
What do the men in our lives really need to hear from us?
What can a woman say to the man in her life to make him feel GREAT?
Are there some awesome words and phrases she can use?
I asked my husband to share with me his answers to these same questions.
He immediately gave me a list of 5 things he loves to hear and would love to hear more often.
I had to write as fast as I could write to keep up with him. Within 10 minutes, I had an incredible list!
And, so, I offer you the wisdom of this great man I’ve lived with for almost 26 years now.
Here are 5 Ways to Affirm Your Man:
1. I Respect you!
“As a man, as a person, as a dad, as a husband, as you are – I respect and admire you. Even after all of these years, I still respect you.”
“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
Women need love. Men need respect.
Here are some practical ways to communicate respect to your man:
- Ask his opinion and listen to what he has to say.
- Respond without arguing with him.
- Don’t put him down to your friends.
- Don’t belittle or make fun of him in public.
- Don’t belittle or make fun of him in front of the kids.
- If you disagree, try to still treat him with consideration.
- Speak highly of him to friends and family.
2. I Appreciate you!
“I appreciate you and who you are as a man of integrity. I am so grateful for who you are. I am thankful that I am your wife.”
Here are some practical ways to communicate appreciation to your man:
Come up with 3-4 things you really appreciate about your man.
- His Sense of humor
- His Compassionate way of dealing with people
- His Honesty
- His Wisdom
- His Intelligence, or
- His Strength
Tell him at least one of these attributes that you appreciate.
3. I appreciate what you do!
“I am thankful for all that you do for us – for working hard, for giving your best, and for providing for us as you do. Men really like to be appreciated. It means a great deal to us.”
Here are some practical ways to communicate appreciation for what your man does:
- Use your words and thank him.
- Make a big deal in front of the kids for something he did.
- Brag to his friends and your friends over something he did.
- Give him a big hug and whisper your gratitude to him.
4. I love you!
“We like to hear it too. We like to know that you love us!”
Here are some practical ways to communicate love to your man:
- Give him lots of hugs and kisses.
- Send him a nice note, card, email or text message.
- Buy him a little gift that he will really enjoy.
- Do some kind act of service for him – wash his car, make his favorite meal.
- Spend time with him doing what he loves to do – go to a ballgame or an action movie with him.
5. I Think You Are the Best, and I Would Choose You if I had it to do All Over Again!
“I’m really glad that I picked you. You are the best one, and I would pick you again.“
Here are some practical ways to communicate to him that he is still the best one to you:
(This one really makes me think of some old songs. Maybe you can use one of these titles to communicate your love).
- “We’re still having fun, and you’re still the ONE.”
- “You’re the ONE that I want.”
- “I can’t stop loving YOU.”
- “I will always love YOU.”
Many years ago, I was water skiing with two of my best friends. My dad was driving us around the lake on a gorgeous summer day.
At one point we stopped to rest and have a snack. As we paused, my dad started talking to us about boys.
We were all single at the time.
My dad teased us a little, and then he asked a very serious question:
“Isn’t there some guy out there that you girls RESPECT?”
I don’t know who my friends pictured when he posed the question. But, when my dad asked that question, I immediately thought of Randy. Randy was a single guy at our church who I thought very highly of.
Not long after that boat trip, all three of us girls were engaged; all of us married men that we really respected within a year of that day at the lake. And, we are all still married to those same good men—after 25 years.
My man just happens to be named “Randy!”
So, what do you think? What would you add to my list? What does your man like to hear?
I always enjoy hearing from you!